No one said that ever. We all stated that if you put in enough time and effort, for some 3 weeks (but i doubt it) for others 3 , or 9 months or 10 years (just for the sake of argument) they will be able to compete with those camping the high end mobs. Its all about how much time and effort someone puts in to playing. If that "working man" you mention doesn't have time, or just doesn't want to play the game then they wont be able to do it and guess what they don't deserve to do it, because even in a game things need to be earned not handed to you.
So if you're making a conscious choice or just don't have the luxury to pick game over real life, then no, you will not be able to compete with those with uber gear any time soon. So please stop regurgitating the idea that because you are busy working in real life and providing for your family (which is admirable) you deserve the same gear and to farm the same mobs as those that spend more time in game then you do at work, because you just don't. Sorry, playing the real life doesn't give you in game XP, it dont work that way. Never has, never will.